I think you forgot to mention in that last clip just in case you would like to do a little bit more
reading or you'd like to reflect upon Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs with it actually included
many workbook that you can download print off and work through in your own time.
It might even be the case you want to download it and keep it stored somewhere to share with your future
clients especially when you start exploring core values with them.
No.
On one level there's gonna be absolutely fine for me to go intellectual on you.
Many people do when it comes to talking about and motivating motivational theory but I don't want to
go theoretical when you hear why.
Because theories are just ideas.
All right well we do need to understand if we want to look more effective life's is why we're even inclined
to make half the decisions that we make in life when we understand the extent of the options that are
available to us.
It really sets us up in a position to make far wiser and far more well-informed decisions.
And this is what gaining an understanding of core human values should really set us up to do make wiser
and more well-informed decisions.
No rather than just presenting you with more ideas or more information in this video I would like to
tell you a story.
I'll write a story for the purpose of illustrating some of the options that you have in life and this
will hopefully also help you to understand yourself and why it is sometimes that you don't do the things
that you really want to do and sometimes why it is that you do things that you really don't want to
do.
This will hopefully help you to understand yourself a little bit better.
If I was to ask you right now how you feel about the word freedom what would you say if I was to say
to you for the rest of your life you are going to be free free in your decision making free with your
time free financially.
What would you say there's a pretty good chance you're nodding your head frantically saying yes please
and how do I get that.
Well my friend.
Every single given moment in time you are only ever one decision away from being freer than what you
were yesterday.
Sometimes we need to make some really tough decisions in life but if we do not understand what underpins
and drives our decisions then we stand at risk of making the same decisions tomorrow that we've been
making today and for anything up to an entire lifetime.
What I'm going to say is that most people most people want to be free of what they perceived themselves
to be.
Most people are driven by freedom but not all people would ever say that they are free.
I want to link the site you back to when I was talking about remember the the body spirit so idea in
our saw our soul comprises three parts of us or mind where our thoughts come from the pop and they pop
out our well our free will and our emotions our free will.
All right our exercise to our ability to make decisions is actually the only aspect in our lives that
we love freedom.
All right we are free in our ability to choose whatever we want.
It's just that sometimes we don't think or we don't understand how or we don't believe that we are.
So this story will hopefully help you to fill in a few blanks.
This picture here is a picture of a place up north in Scotland called Port soy port soy is like a little
fishing town I used to go there on holiday when I was a when I was a boy I used to get taken there by
my mum and dad on school holidays.
We used to stay in caravans and things like that.
I used to absolutely hate these family holidays being stuck in a little for birther caravan with a mum
and my dad and my sister.
No.
My dad used to work up there.
He used to be like a traveling salesman for many years and he would stay in a hotel called the Station
Hotel.
That was actually just up this little lane here.
No the proprietor of the Station Hotel used to be a lady called Margaret and Mrs Clarke.
Ha ha mum and there were like a mother and daughter tag team who run US run this hotel for for many
years.
Margaret was like a spinster after the Second World War.
She'd never had a boyfriend never had a husband never got kissed.
And if these things well I'm not saying for certain that she never got kissed.
She might have been a little floozy for all I know I just I don't know these things.
But as the story goes.
And Margaret had a bard All right and I can remember me my sister used to.
Gordon you know mythology to take us to visit Margaret and shut a mine apart.
Right.
You've ever seen a minor bird before they're black usually with a little bit of yellow or orange around
the neck and you can train minor birds to speak.
So me my sister were so completely you know amazed every same way every time we met this mine nobody
would speak to us and say things like who's a pretty boy.
Then pieces of it and stuff like that.
All sorts of funny things.
No.
Margaret kept her minor bards in the corner of our living room for most of the year and obviously right
north of Scotland gets pretty dark.
Daylight is minimal especially through the through the winter months of the year or so in winter and
the birds stay in his cage in the corner of the living room or a nighttime she put a blanket over the
bird cage he'd sleep and through the daytime should sit and watch daytime TV with her and all that sort
of thing.
No.
In the summer months if the rare occasion happened in Scotland where we got a really nice summer's day
while Margaret was sometimes you would pick up the bird cage from the corner of the living room take
us through and place the bird cage with birds next to their kitchen window on the really nice days should
open up the kitchen window and let the little bird lookout No.
Margaret thought that she was doing a really good turn by a bird.
In those months.
But little did she know that those months were like torment and how for poor little Tweety look at that
you got red eyes and all sorts of stuff going on.
All right.
Why.
Because in those months poor Tweety was reminded that he was not a free bird.
He was in fact a caged bird.
All right.
He didn't have any other options available to him.
Rather than stay in his cage no one summer's day Margaret had put the bird cage on the kitchen table
should open the window up and this was her shopping day.
So off she went to the shops and she closed the door of the house behind her as she often would.
And this gust of wind blew through the house on the door of the Bird Cage blew open.
This was it.
This was trees or birds.
Chance to spread his wings fly away and go in soar with the Eagles.
But he kind of sat there and his chance for freedom was literally within his grasp.
All he had to do was just fly away.
And that was him.
But he sat there and he thought and he procrastinated and he became double minded and undecided in his
ways.
He thought oh this is this.
I could go and get my freedom is there for the taking.
I could go and saw where the eagles and saw with the seagulls in Scotland rather than the Eagles and
I can go and pick me up with some nice juicy worms and maybe even build me a nest and who knows perhaps
even get me a little birdie girlfriend that had some little birdie babies and all that kind of stuff.
How lovely lovely time.
And he was just about to go and then this thought popped into his mind.
Margaret what about Margaret Margaret looks after me.
She takes care of me.
She feeds me in the cold winter months and all but I love watching Coronation Street and Emmerdale Farm
and EastEnders or Margaret and I do like watching these Netflix shows especially Agents of SHIELD.
I'll miss all that kind of stuff.
Or maybe just better off remaining.
Where am I.
Because I'm actually I've actually got things pretty good with Margaret but then he thought about get
himself a little birdie girlfriend and having some Birdie babies and building that nest and picking
up them juicy worms and grubs that he'd never had before and he got really excited about it.
But then he thought about Margaret any home that he had and this was all day long you remained in this
place of double mindedness and he did not make a decision.
Then Margaret came home from the shops and she walked through the House and to her absolute horror she
realized that the door of the birdcage had opened up and our little bird though was there just about
ready to fly on in slow motion she'd run up to the bird cage.
She said no when she grabbed and she closed the door she picked up the bird cage to come back through
to the corner of the living room where she placed him on a shelf.
She put the blanket over the bird cage and the little bird fell asleep and absolutely nothing changed.
Everything remained the same because Margaret's Bard was a Bard who chose security over freedom do you
see the direction we're going to be taking the rest of the section in.
All right.
Come on.
Ask yourself the question what area of your life are you currently choosing security over freedom in
is kind of like we all have this conflict going on within us don't we.
We want freedom.
We want to be able to express ourselves freely and do what we want to do and we want to be more creative
and we want to become more valuable.
But yet we have this tendency to accept second best don't we.
Sometimes for fear of not being secure or or whatever.
So I share this story with you.
All right.
To hopefully help you better understand where we're gonna be taking the rest of this section this is
just one conflicting set of values operates inside of us all of the time.
All right you are gonna be the kind of person who is 100 percent driven by freedom and the thought of
anything else apart from Freedom just wouldn't do see it going to most likely be 11 quite an exciting
high octane life or you might be the kind of person who is just 100 percent driven by security all the
time and feeling safe and feeling secure and doing that sensible job.
I'm friend this might be the reason why at times you feel a little bit disheartened a little bit unenthused
and you sometimes feel like you're going nowhere in life because you're actually not you're sacrificing
your own personal freedom for the little bit security that you've got.
No my friends.
There's no right there's no wrong there's just decisions to be made.
Once we are clearer what's driving us in life.
Once we are clued up on what our actual priorities are leaves us in a far stronger position to make
more of the decisions that we really do want to make and less of the decisions that we don't.
So this is the story of Margaret's part.
I will look forward to unpacking more core human values and the values that follow.